Authentic Body Confidence
A 5 month group coaching program for better body image.
How Much Time & Energy Do You Spend Obsessing Over Your Body's Size, Shape, or "Flaws"?
Now think about what you haven't done... what you haven't learned, or written, or painted, or been present for, or traveled to... all because you were too busy thinking about your body or appearance.
If you’re anything like I used to be, then you’ve spent your whole life identifying with how you look, and wanting to fix every single so-called “imperfection” in order to finally be good enough.
You’ve spent years (or decades!) working hard to feel thin enough, pretty enough, or desirable enough or to finally be confident– but none of it has worked. Even if you see some short term success, something always happens — an injury, a pregnancy, a break up, an illness, a career change — and you go right back to square one.
I know why it hasn’t worked.
All of the changes you’ve made to your body in the past — the diet, the exercise regimen, the make up, the new clothes — didn’t work because your appearance was never the problem. Obsessing over your appearance (what I often call “body perfectionism”) is just a distraction for the really painful stuff that lies underneath: the feelings of not being enough, of being too much, or of failing in your role as a woman.
It’s what’s going on under the surface that needs your attention more than anything– but deep down, you knew that already, didn’t you? You’re here, after all. 😉
Welcome to Authentic Body Confidence!
Through this five month online coaching program, you’ll learn how to see past the body anxiety lies, learn how to feel worthy exactly as you are, and finally feel confident in your own skin.
Since it’s a small group coaching program, you’ll have a sounding board and community, in addition to personal coaching, resources, webinars, and worksheets that will help you break free from the shackles of thinking about your body and appearance all the time!
What is Authentic Body Confidence?
This course is the culmination of my years of work helping women overcome body image issues.
It’s a comprehensive tour of the most important lessons and skills a woman needs to learn in order to be released the tyranny of thinking about her body all the time– from diversifying her self-worth and self-identity, to unpacking her internalized fatphobia, to learning how to let go of her fear of judgement and criticism.
Who needs Authentic Body Confidence?
This course is for you if you know you were put on earth to do something important, but you haven’t had the time, money, or energy to do it yet, because you’ve been too busy focusing on how you look.
It’s for you if you’re terrified of people judging you or not liking you, if you struggle to make friends with other women, or if you feel isolated or alone. It’s for you if you sometimes feel like an imposter, or if you spend a lot of time making it look like you have your shit together despite secretly being totally lost.
It’s for you if you are a people-pleaser, if you are constantly anxious about your body, or if you want to be a body-positive role model for your daughters. It’s for you if you have ever spent a love-making session thinking about how you look instead of feeling pleasure. It’s for you if you’ve ever missed an event because you didn’t think you looked good enough.
It’s for you if you are just plain tired of thinking about food, fat, weight, exercise, beauty, or how you look– and you’re ready to spend your time and energy thinking about how you feel, what you want, and what you’re here to do instead.
What will I learn in Authentic Body Confidence?
We focus on external things we think we can control (like weight, food, fat, or shape!) because our emotional lives are so much more painful, murky, abstract, and scary. We disconnect from our bodies in an attempt to disconnect from the feelings and stories that really scare us.
Authentic Body Confidence will teach you how to challenge society’s lies about what a woman should do and be, identify and heal the emotional needs you’re trying to meet by looking a certain way, and learn how to trust yourself.
As a result, you’ll find yourself moving toward the life you really desire, taking way better care of yourself, connecting with others more easily, and cultivating a strong sense of self-worth outside of how you look.
What You Actually Get When You Sign Up:
- 10 pre-recorded webinars, delivered every other week
- 10 material worksheets, complete with practices, resources, and journal questions, delivered with a PDF of the associated webinar slides.
- A printed and bound Authentic Body Confidence booklet sent via snail mail before the program begins, including all 10 worksheets plus tons of additional practices and resources.
- 20 weekly live group-coaching calls to process the information, discuss application, and work through real-time issues with the group!
- Private Facebook group access, for accountability, discussion, Q&A, and support!
- Lifetime access to the material (you can join any future sessions I run of ABC for free, including the coaching calls!
PLUS! You’ll get exclusive access to bonus interviews created just for you by your body confidence “fairy godmothers,” including:
Pleasure Is My Birthright, with:
Ev’Yan Whitney, sexuality doula and advocate for erotic women, and creator of Sex, Love, Liberation.
Marginalized Bodies, and Being Both Sexy and Fat, with:
Melissa Gibson, Body Positivity Activist
Finding Body Peace Through Chronic Illness and Body Changes with: Ivy Felicia, “The Body Relationship Coach”
You have important shit to do in this lifetime.
Stop letting body anxiety keep you from doing it.
I am much more aware of my thoughts and truly understand that my worth has nothing to do with my body. I knew this before, but now I believe it.
I’m getting much better at eating intuitively and recognizing my emotions, letting them flow through me without judgment. I’ve significantly decreased the amount of time I live my life spectatoring (viewing my experience through the perspective of others) and increased the amount of time in my life I do things and experience things purely for myself.
Authentic Body Confidence will not magically make you a better person. It won’t make you thinner or more motivated or suddenly happy. This program will tear down all your walls and barriers, question all your current belief systems and lifestyle choices and force you to make conscious choices about your life. I thought I had a problem with food, body image and motivation, but through this course I discovered that all of my issues stemmed from not understanding my values and not truly knowing how to take care of myself.
This course was worth every penny and has taken so much unnecessary burden out of my life.
The 5 Month Syllabus
Spring 2019 Session Is Currently Full
Module #1: Redefining Self Care
- Put yourself first for once.
- Take responsibility for your own feelings, and let go of everyone else’s.
- Live your life as if you’re worthy of unlimited love, care, compassion, and kindness.
Module #2: Body Image Issues Are Protecting You From Something
- Body image issues have nothing to do with how you look.
- Find out what yours are protecting you from, or distracting you from, and then deal with that thing directly.
- Which emotional needs are you trying to get met by looking “good enough”?
Module #3: Facing Your Fears
- Learn how to stop people-pleasing.
- Break all the rules you’ve been taught about how a woman is supposed to look and be.
- Liberate yourself from being responsible for what other people think of you.
Module #4: Dealing With Food, Exercise, and Health
- Learn the truth about binging, dieting, “health,” and weight loss (hint: you’ve been lied to!)
- Give up food anxiety for good.
- Move for pleasure rather than punishment.
Module #5: Embracing Flaws & Fluctuations.
- Why body fluctuation is normal, and how to accept it.
- Beauty and thinness are a status symbol for women, so having flaws feels like we’re failing– but we’re not.
- It’s ok to still want to look hot.
Module #6: Redefining Self Love
- Don’t let self-love become one more impossible expectation.
- You don’t need to think you “look good” to feel confident.
- Embrace the new self-worth paradigm.
Module #7: Re-Connecting to Your Body
- Learn how to feel and trust the sensations in your body again.
- Listen to your hunger and fullness signals (plus all the other signals you’ve been ignoring!)
- Your body is wise AF, learn to let it guide you!
Module #8: Examining Your Identity
- You have to know yourself in order to like yourself, so… who are you?
- Stop apologizing, hiding, editing, or pretending.
- Learn to identify with the parts of yourself which are worthy of love, connection, and belonging.
Module #9: Embracing Emotions
- Learn to feel (and express) your feelings without fear or shame.
- Get your emotional needs met directly, instead of trying to get them met using your body or appearance.
- Nothing you feel makes you bad or unworthy of love.
Module #10: Building a Life of F*ck YES
- Learn to identify (and express!) your authentic desires.
- Establish boundaries and stop worrying what people think of you.
- Live a life so gloriously delicious that how you look becomes the least interesting thing about you.
When the course started, I was struggling with my weight and constantly feeling like an outcast. I was also struggling to deal with having lipoedema which makes me feel deformed. My identity revolved around my ‘socially unacceptable’ body and made me feel worthless.
I first heard about this course shortly after finding you in Instagram’s recommendations. I didn’t know what to expect, but I was tired of feeling like my body was an anchor holding me down, and I hoped to learn how to reconnect to the parts I have ignored for so long.
ABC helped me see that my worth is not based on how others view my body. This course helped me understand that my fears and judgements about my appearance are distracting me from what I’m really afraid of, and helped me dig deeper. I feel a connection to my body that didn’t exist before. After years of hiding my lipoedema diagnosis and being ashamed, I am finally processing my feelings about this disease and moving toward acceptance.
I was surprised I ended up learning so much more beyond just body confidence… My relationships are improving, I have more understanding about my behaviors and coping mechanisms, I am identifying and setting boundaries, and I am getting to know myself again (or for the first time!). This has been an invaluable experience.
One of the BIGGEST changes I’ve experienced since taking ABC is my ability to tap back into my body. I have been through quite a bit of trauma in my life (physically, emotionally, and sexually) and had disconnected from my body for a long time. Through this course I have been able to feel touch differently, experience my emotions in more curious fashion instead of fear, and enjoy connecting with my partner in way I haven’t been able to in a long time. I’m also happier with myself and who I am in a way I didn’t know existed.
So… What’s the Investment?
10 Webinars & Worksheets: $2,000 value
Print Book & Additional Resources: $40 value
20 Live Group Coaching Calls: $6,000 value
FB Group Access: $120 value
The Fairy Godmother Bonus Recordings: $450 value
Lifetime access to future versions of the program: $997 value
(Meaning you’re invited to join any future version of ABC that I run for free, which is typically twice per year)
+ Early Enrollment Private Coaching Call Bonus: $300 value
Just 5 monthly payments of $227
(Or $997 Paid-In-Full Discount)
Frequently Asked Questions
When does this program start?
This program is currently full, and registration will be open again late 2019!
How do I know if this program is for me?
This program is for female-identified people of any age, weight, or shape who wants to stop stressing about, hating, criticizing, obsessing over, or picking apart their body or appearance. If you feel like you’ve tried everything else and are ready to try something different and dig deep, this program is for you.
Why a group program?
To show you that you’re not alone, connect you to others who are going through a similar journey, provide a community based around shared values, and allow you to practice the skills you’re learning in a safe and supportive space.
What if I can’t make the live coaching calls?
The coaching calls will be available on various days and times, to accommodate different timezones and schedules. I recommend making an effort to come to them if possible, but I recognize that it’s not always possible. If you can’t make the live calls, don’t worry– you can always send me questions or issues via email to discuss live on the call, since all coaching calls will be recorded and sent out to everyone after!
What if I sign up and then decide it’s not for me?
This work is intensely personal, and a big investment. That’s why I offer a full money-back guarantee! Within two weeks of the program’s start date, if you decide this isn’t what you’re looking for, you’re entitled to a full refund, no questions asked.
Note: I extended the program from 12 to 20 weeks to accommodate different lifestyles and schedules, and offer continuous support over the longer period of time which I’ve discovered this process takes. That said, if you get off track due to major life events and end up jumping ship, have no fear! Your membership includes access to any future version of this program that I run (which tends to be about twice/year) so you can always start over again soon.
I felt so ashamed of my body that I actively avoided seeing old classmates and friends because I didn’t want them to see me. It put so many restrictions on my life and how I could enjoy it. I didn’t want to go to the beach until after I lost weight. I didn’t go to my class reunion because I was so embarrassed of myself. I avoided photographs, and if I had to take some, tried to take as many as possible so I could pick the one that made me grimace the least. I took this course because I wanted to be able to stop holding back, to get out of my bubble of fear and actually enjoy life. While I’d like to think I’ve become more confident, it’s hard to say until something happens! I did however give you an actual photo of me to go with this statement, which I never would have done before! 😉
My life has drastically changed since the program, I feel more empowered and confident in myself and my ability to make decisions.
ABC gave me the support system that allowed me to feel safe and explore who I am, what I need and how I would like to show up in the world. It also helped me build the confidence to move forward in a way that I am proud of, and excited to live my life.
This has been some of the most challenging work I have done and the most rewarding.
Not only did I get what I wanted from the course (which was to feel like my not-even-fat belly wasn’t a huge burden I was carrying), but I got so much more. I grieved over my leg injury, and got over it, I apologised to my body, I started playing with free-movement and dancing around my living room (which, if you knew me, is something I would have never thought I’d do, let alone actually enjoy and continue long after the course!). I had some really powerful visualisations that will always stay with me, and I shared my journey with a group of really kind, amazing, brave people.
Jessi always seems to know the right thing to say. She listens to everyone with such attention, and such care, that you can’t help but feel seen and heard. In such a safe environment, it’s almost impossible not to heal. This course is so much more than just learning to accept your body; this is about exploring — at a deep level — what it means to be you.